We don’t often want our relationships to come to an end. Nevermind when there are kids involved. It’s a hurtful and difficult situation to deal with and can often end up a whole lot more complicated than you’d initially imagine. Feelings of upset, hurt, jealousy, anger, and even bitterness can result in heated arguments and leave people making one another’s lives pretty difficult. None of this is ideal. You can go to a couple’s therapy session or do your utmost to try to make things work and if this goes well – great! But at the end of the day, if you need to break up, you need to break up. You’ll both be much happier once everything settles down and you’re out of a relationship that wasn’t working for you. What’s most important is that your little ones and their needs are put first through the entire process. Here are just a few different steps you can take to help make a breakup be resolved as smoothly as possible, giving you the chance to focus less on negativity and more on your kids!
Be as Civil as Possible
The first thing you need to do to prioritise your kids’ well being is to put negative feelings behind you, let go of any grudges and be civil with your ex partner. When you share custody of a child, you’re pretty much stuck with one another as an ongoing presence for the foreseeable future, so you’re going to have to grin and bear it and get on with your ex partner as well as possible. This is essential in order to set your child a good example – discouraging them from copying negative behaviour such as pettiness. It also prevents them from spending time in an uncomfortable or hostile environment.
Request Legal Help
Sometimes, people will be entirely unreasonable during a breakup and will try to make life hard for you. Some do this by trying to deny you access to your kid. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s best to seek legal help from a child custody attorney. You can get more details on this yourself.
Seek Support
A break up is bound to take its toll on you emotionally. It’s a draining process. So, continually remind yourself that you’re not alone and that there is support out there if you find that you do need it. Friends and family can be a good contact point when you need to vent or want some advice. If you’d rather remain more private, you can benefit from the help of specialist support groups and helplines.
Hopefully, you don’t have to use any of this information and you’re happy in your relationship. But should you find yourself going through some sort of breakup, it’s a good idea to follow the advice above. It should help to make the situation as seamless as possible!
